Explore the reality of Master/slave relationships, kink, and consensual BDSM. Through in-depth interviews and honest conversations, we reveal the lives, challenges, and growth of people embracing power exchange — from Masters and slaves who have lived together for decades to those overcoming shame to live a life true to themselves.
We go beyond the surface to explore the emotional, psychological, and spiritual layers of this lifestyle.
Hosted by Master Phil — coach and educator on lasting M/s dynamics — and downloaded over 100,000 times worldwide.
New to M/s? Start with our free guide, built on years of conversations, coaching, and lived experience from Masters and slaves around the world. Download it at MasterSlaveLifestyle.com/guide.
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Thursday Oct 16, 2025
Thursday Oct 16, 2025
What does it take to create and lead a thriving Master/slave household while integrating deep personal growth? In this episode, Master Celiste shares her journey from slave to becoming a covered Leather Master and leading the 12-member House of the Kinky Misfits. She discusses how shadow work shaped her early years, why clarity in language and contracts is critical, and how compassion and humanity can strengthen power exchange leadership.
You’ll hear practical advice on building a healthy household, including why clarity in language and Master/slave contracts is so important, how to approach reality-based service expectations, and what it means to “trust the process” during challenging times. Master Celiste also explains how shadow work scenes can support healing and how Masters and slaves can balance strictness with empathy.
If you’re considering starting your own household, stepping into leadership, or doing deep healing work within M/s, this episode offers powerful insights and lessons learned from someone who’s walked the path.
What’s inside:– How to build structure, rules, and clear language in an M/s household– The role of shadow work in healing and personal growth– Why compassion and “trusting the process” are essential for long-term success
What’s inside:– How Spot started with online submission and transitioned to in-person ownership– The importance of vetting, values alignment, and intentionality in M/s– Lessons on energy, abundance, and building a household from scratch
Part 2 coming next month – subscribe so you don’t miss out.
Master Celiste's Links- There are no links for Master Celiste
Free Guide: Build the M/s relationship you didn’t think was possible — and learn how to make it last. Download my free guide to real lasting M/s dynamics → MasterSlaveLifestyle.com/guide
About the podcast: The Master/slave Lifestyle Podcast reveals the lives, stories, challenges, and growth of people embracing power exchange and living the Master/slave lifestyle. Downloaded over 100,000 times worldwide.
Want more? Support the show and watch the full video interview at Patreon.com/masterslavelifestyle.com
Thursday Sep 04, 2025
Thursday Sep 04, 2025
In part two of our conversation, Master Spot opens up about life inside his household — from managing multiple slaves across continents to balancing protocol, care, and responsibility as a Master. You’ll hear how Spot structures 24/7 power exchange with long-distance slaves, why protocol is the “flesh and bone” of his relationships, and how he balances strictness with compassion.
This episode also explores what it means to grow into a Master role in power exchange: finding inner confidence, navigating the weight of responsibility, and embracing transparency in personal and professional life. Spot shares practical lessons from his household — including how to set expectations, use tools like the Obedience app, and adapt to different levels of submission.
If you’ve ever wondered what running an M/s household really looks like or how to step into Mastery with confidence and care, this episode offers you the inspiration to do this yourself
What’s inside:– How to structure 24/7 M/s dynamics with long-distance slaves– Why protocol is essential for consistency and connection– Growing into Mastery and finding confidence as a leader
Want to listen to part 1 - it is the episode immediately before this one: Submissive to Master: Spot’s M/s Transformation (Part 1)
Spot’s Links
- https://www.recon.com/spot
- https://www.instagram.com/house_of_spot/- https://bsky.app/profile/house-of-spot.bsky.social- Obediance App - https://obedienceapp.com/
Free Guide: Build the M/s relationship you didn’t think was possible — and learn how to make it last. Download my free guide to real lasting M/s dynamics → MasterSlaveLifestyle.com/guide
About the podcast: The Master/slave Lifestyle Podcast reveals the lives, stories, challenges, and growth of people embracing power exchange and living the Master/slave lifestyle. Downloaded over 100,000 times worldwide.
Want more? Watch the full video interview and support the podcast at Patreon.com/masterslavelifestyle.com
Sunday Aug 10, 2025
Sunday Aug 10, 2025
Ever wondered how someone moves from curious submissive to leading their own household?
In this special part 1 episode, Spot shares his journey through the Master/slave lifestyle — from his first online dynamic and becoming an owned slave to founding the House of Spot as a Dominant. You’ll hear how he balanced love and long-term commitment, vetted potential partners, and embraced abundance, energy, and intentionality to create a unique dynamic that genuinely works.
We discuss how intentionality, abundance, and honest connection have shaped his M/S journey. And how he balanced love, vetting, and growth to create a dynamic uniquely his own.
You’ll hear how Spot balanced long-term love with a fiancé, the practical realities of vetting and negotiating with potential Dominants, and how intentionality and “speaking the same language and accent” became the foundation for every step forward.
Whether you’re exploring M/s for the first time or looking to evolve your existing dynamic, Spot’s story offers a grounded look at real-life power exchange and what it takes to grow with courage and clarity.
What’s inside:– How Spot started with online submission and transitioned to in-person ownership– The importance of vetting, values alignment, and intentionality in M/s– Lessons on energy, abundance, and building a household from scratch
Part 2 coming this week – subscribe so you don’t miss out.
Spot’s Links
- https://www.recon.com/spot
- https://www.instagram.com/house_of_spot/- https://bsky.app/profile/house-of-spot.bsky.social
Free Guide: Build the M/s relationship you didn’t think was possible — and learn how to make it last. Download my free guide to real lasting M/s dynamics → MasterSlaveLifestyle.com/guide
About the podcast: The Master/slave Lifestyle Podcast reveals the lives, stories, challenges, and growth of people embracing power exchange and living the Master/slave lifestyle. Downloaded over 100,000 times worldwide.
Want more? Support the show and watch the full video interview at Patreon.com/masterslavelifestyle.com
Sunday Jan 05, 2025
Sunday Jan 05, 2025
In this Light & Shadow episode, I explore the key role of the King archetype in the Master, and what it takes for a Master to transcend mere dominance to embody the greatness of a King.
I will cover the virtues, responsibilities, and the nuanced balance required for a Master to lead, inspire, and nurture along with attributes—purpose-driven leadership, resilience, and authentic integrity—to forge a Master who is revered and respected.
I also delve into the darker aspects of this archetype in becoming a Tyrant or a Weakling—the distorted versions of the King, where power is misused, and leadership turns into oppression or abdication.
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EPISODE BREAKDOWN
Introduction to the Jungian King archetype in the context of Master
Discussion of a Master's life purpose and its significance in becoming the King
Exploration of leadership qualities in a Master
Emphasis on authenticity and integrity as core traits of a successful Master.
Analysis of the role of resilience in a Master's life, especially under pressure or in challenging situations
Contrast between positive King traits and the Shadow King, including aspects like the Tyrant and the Weakling
Examination of the psychological and emotional aspects of being a Master and how they relate to the King archetype
Real-life examples and analogies to illustrate the concepts discussed.
Conclusion with key takeaways and reflections on the Master as King archetype in power exchange relationships
Wednesday Nov 13, 2024
Wednesday Nov 13, 2024
The podcast is back!
In this interview, I sit down with Barclay or Leather Edge, an amazing voice in the leather and kink community. Barclay is deeply respected worldwide for his insights into Kink and authentic power exchange. He hosts his own popular podcast, where he shares reflections and guidance on navigating the kink lifestyle.In this episode, we dive into his life and 30 year journey into kink and discuss the importance of mentorship, connection, and self-acceptance for those on their own path in this lifestyle.
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GUEST INFORMATION
You can find Leather Edge's podcast and all his other links at his podcast.
KinkProud Book
Break free from shame and guilt, stop fitting in, and proudly live your desires with the Kink Proud Handbook.
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EPISODE BREAKDOWN
Introduction to Barclay: Background, early days, and initial interests in bondage.
First Experiences in Leather: Discovering leather culture in New Orleans, mentorship from a leather couple.
Navigating Identity: The evolution from a bottom and boy role to recognizing a dominant identity.
Leather Community Lessons: Understanding the concept of "coming of age" in leather, learning community values, and building connections.
Transition to Dominance: Barclay’s gradual journey into a dominant role and overcoming imposter syndrome.
Mentorship and Learning in Kink: The importance of mentorship, learning through mistakes, and finding core community connections.
Reflections on Substance Use: Barclay’s experience with crystal meth, the impact on his leather journey, and finding recovery.
Embracing Authenticity in Power Exchange: The importance of desire and genuine connection, Barclay’s demisexual perspective on power exchange.
Modern Leather Life and Social Media: Barclay’s journey from AOL profiles to social media presence and the role of digital platforms in kink today.
Closing Reflections: Advice for newcomers, thoughts on community growth, and Barclay’s gratitude for his journey.
Friday Mar 15, 2024
Friday Mar 15, 2024
In this episode, I explore the archetype of the 'Lover' in BDSM relationships. While the word 'Lover' often conjures up images of passion and romance, in BDSM, it encompasses so much more: empathy, connection, innocent energy, vulnerability, and ego.
But the Lover archetype isn’t all light. It also has a shadow side—the Addict, the Disconnector, the Nihilist. Together, we’ll explore these dimensions and challenge the stereotypes prevalent in the gay fetish scene. I’ll guide you through ways to communicate for deeper, more meaningful connections, moving beyond the often celebrated hardness and alphaness to embrace both strength and vulnerability.
Join me in this call to connect with tenderness, push boundaries, and foster an authentic experience that goes beyond the surface.
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LINKS:
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Link for connection meditation
Addiction Resources:
US: SAMHSA’s national helpline: 800-662-4357
UK: Action on Addiction: 0300 330 0659
Other countries: https://www.helpguide.org/find-help.htm
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EPISODE BREAKDOWN
Exploring the 'Slave as Lover' archetype: sensitivity, vulnerability, and growth
The Shadow of the Lover: navigating grief, hurt, and hiding behind obedience
Practical actions for slaves to foster connection and growth as a Lover
Monday Feb 12, 2024
Monday Feb 12, 2024
Dive into the story of Michael. This episode takes you on his extraordinary journey through the complex world of FinDom (Financial Domination). Find out about Michael and his story as a submissive who later transitioned into a Dominant within the FindDom community, only to confront and overcome the alluring, addictive nature of this facet of the power exchange scene. And how now, in the end, he is discovering his authentic self.
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Podcast episodes from Michael's podcast that go deeper into who he is
Trainers, chavs and peacocks
Reflections on Trains, chavs and peacocks
Michaels submissive fantasy
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EPISODE BREAKDOWN
An Unusual Beginning: Explore the roots of Michael's foray into the world of BDSM, beginning as a submissive as a sports fetish.
A Transformative Path: Witness the transformation from a submissive to becoming a Dominant in the FinDom scene and the allure of power and control that defines this unique subculture.
The Addiction of Control: Delve into the seductive and often addictive aspects of Findom. Micahel candidly shares personal experiences of the power dynamics and the challenges they present.
Awakening and Recovery: Learn about Michaels's critical moments of self-awareness and the decision to step away from the world of Findom.
Reflections and Insights: Gain valuable insights into the complexities of identity, power, and addiction in the context of FinDom. Micahel reflects on the lessons learned and how they have shaped a new perspective on his life and relationships.
Friday Jan 12, 2024
Friday Jan 12, 2024
In this episode, I peel back the layers to uncover the often overlooked aspect of the Master/slave dynamic – the Master as a Lover.
When we think of the Lover, our minds instinctively turn to thoughts of sex. However, within the realm of BDSM, particularly Master/slave relationships, the Lover archetype takes on a deeper meaning. It becomes a conduit for connection, a bridge between desires and the profound need for authentic human connection.
In "Master as a Lover," we embark on a journey beyond the surface of dominance and submission. We delve into the realm where vulnerability meets control and where the desire for connection transcends the physical. It's an episode that challenges preconceptions, encouraging both Masters and slaves to consider the emotional intricacies that underpin their dynamic.
We examine the shadows that can cast themselves over Masters – from being unfeeling and unconnected to the allure of addiction. Unveiling these shadows is crucial, as they often emerge from a lack of connection, leading to dehumanization and negative consequences within the BDSM relationship.
Join me as I navigate the complex landscape of the Master as a Lover, exploring how genuine connection, vulnerability, and self-exploration are key ingredients for a healthy and fulfilling Master/slave dynamic.
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LINKS:
Buy your copy of my book: The Light and Shadow
Mediation for connection
Does a slave have needs?
Master Drew from the Duality blog
Sacred Power – Holy Surrender (affiliate link)
Jolted Awake
Addiction Resources:
US: SAMHSA’s national helpline: 800-662-4357
UK: Action on Addiction: 0300 330 0659
Other countries: https://www.helpguide.org/find-help.htm
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Thursday Nov 30, 2023
Thursday Nov 30, 2023
In this episode, we sit down with the enigmatic Sir Kaiju, delving into the journey that led him from the realm of submission to the commanding world of dominance and as an expert fister.
The episode includes an informed primer on the intimate art of fisting without the influence of drugs, the importance of mindset in opening up to this unique experience, and how dominance intertwines with this visceral act, and why Sir Kaiju finds profound satisfaction as a Top doing this.
Discover the nuanced approach of Sir Kaiju in establishing safe containers for his submissives, fostering trust, and the art of growing and developing within the BDSM dynamic.
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GUEST INFORMATION
Twitter
SUPPORT THE PODCAST:
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BE INTERVIEWED
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EPISODE BREAKDOWN
Sir Kaiju's candid exploration of his transformation from submissive to dominant.
His love for fisting
An informed primer on fisting: How to engage without the use of drugs and the importance of mindset
How he uses fisting in his dominance
Power dynamics in fisting and the unique satisfaction Sir Kaiju finds as a Top.
The importance of creating a safe space and container for his submissive so they can enjoy his sadism
How he grows and develops his slaves
Thursday Oct 19, 2023
Thursday Oct 19, 2023
In this episode, we navigate the intricate dynamics of a BDSM slave, viewing their journey through the lens of the magician. Including the importance of openness to training and how critical growth and reflection are in order for a slave to be successful.Join me as we unravel the "Safety Officer" concept within, a guardian that protects and potentially obstructs our desires.
We'll dive deep into the shadows cast by the Magician archetype, examining the powerful emotion of shame and its intricate dance within the BDSM and kink communities. From the struggles faced by slaves to the nuanced experiences of Masters, we explore the layers of shame that shape our identities.
But that's not all—we'll shine a light on specific shadows, from the Innocent one and the Manipulator to the Escaper. Throughout this journey, we'll discuss how these shadows manifest and offer insights on confronting and integrating them for personal growth.
So, whether you're a seasoned practitioner of BDSM, someone curious about the psychological underpinnings of human behaviour, or simply seeking a deeper understanding of personal development, this episode has something for you.
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LINKS:
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Coaching
The support group
Mast.net
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Support this unique podcast through a monthly or one-off donation